Ask HN: Why are dating apps so bad? Why hasn't anyone made a good one?

Almost all dating apps that have achieved the exponentially growing network effect have been acquired and subsequently enshittified by Match Group. The intent of these apps is to keep you single and spending money. I think Bumble is the only large scale independent app but they've managed to enshittify themselves too.

So let's assume there is a deficit in the market for dating apps that are actually good. So why hasn't one been made?

Definition of a good dating app: An app with no dark patterns where you can find dates and relationships.

Ideas:

- By internet standards, the market is so mature people aren't motivated to download another app. You're never going to get enough of a positive feedback loop from the network effect.

- No one has made a good app yet.

- A majority of humans aren't compatible with online dating for one reason or another. Maybe they prefer dating in person. Maybe they're unattractive (physically or personality wise), bad at selecting partners, egotistical, selfish, lazy etc. So even if the app itself is good, the users aren't, and maybe the app isn't going to be able to fix the above issues.